Accident shuts down U.S. 19

The 33-year-old passenger in a Mitsubishi Mirage was killed Friday afternoon when this car's driver drove in reverse on U.S. 19 into the path of an oncoming cement truck at 12:21 p.m., according to the Florida Highway Patrol. Elias Diaz was pronounced dead on the scene, according to the FHP.

The car's driver, Miranda M. Fender, 21, of 2009 Kepner Drive in Holiday, was flown to Bayfront Medical Center in St. Petersburg.

The driver of the truck, Isaac H. Steelman, 29, of 12719 Mulberry Lane in Hudson, was not injured.

The Florida Highway Patrol directed slowed traffic on the busy road.

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Camille Spencer, Times staff writer

Comments

[drinklime]

what is it about US-19 that attracts the worst drivers in the world

[Floridiot]

It attracts the worst drivers because it's the yankee freeway. These morons have turned it into the Jersey Turnpike of FL.

[Bob]

It's in Florida...

[steve]

its not the yankees it's rednecks that dont know how to slow down .thinking everythings a race or mudding people cant see over those 40 foot trucks

[Floridiot]

The rednecks were here first! If you don't like the way they drive, go back to Yankeeville, NY. And don't give me that garbage about yankees not driving fast! Please! They are the rudest, most impatient people around (not to mention tacky). Look at the roads up north. We never had accidents at this rate before everyone up north realized how much it sucked up there and flooded down here to ruin Florida. New Port Richey should change it's name to New York Richey and get it over with.

[Matt]

I like the "Yankee Highway" reference and I second the notion that pretty much every accident on US 19 is caused by one of our beloved northern visitors. What is so bad up north that they can only handle it for 60 years or so?

[Yankee]

cuz it easy to come down here and dominate you inbred morons

Florida natives make me laugh. They're like little children protecting their favorite toy.

"Go back up North Yankee Pig-dog! The south will RIIIIISE again!"

LOL - cracks me up everytime.

[PaulW]

There are accidents on other roads too.

Death by car is one of the most common ways to go in this country. Doesn't matter which road, doesn't matter which state. You're going to get people who simply don't respect the rules of vehicle safety, ever, be it those driving cement trucks or those driving SUVs or those driving them fancy new hybrids.

it's just more noticeable on US 19 because it's our major roadway in Pasco and Pinellas. I'm sure SR 60 and I-4 in Hillsborough are just as nasty.

[Floridiot]

It is our favorite toy! And we're protecting it because the development that has taken place to house you yankees leaving the unlivable north, has eaten into and altered the look of Real Florida. That's what you rude, tacky yankees will never understand because your part of the country sucks! If it didn't, you wouldn't be down here. If where you're from is so great, then why aren't we flooding to the north? We'll get most of you out of here with a few good hurricanes!

[LOUISTHETERRIBLE]

If you don't like the area, why not leave because the rednecks you enjoy ridiculing, RUN THIS TOWN!!! Like it or not. The northerners that are in the loop are only there because those rednecks allowed them the privilage. Spend all your money you got from selling your house up north and everyone is happy!!!

[Disgusted]

A person has lost their life, you have to careful period on 19 regardless if you are a northern transplant or a native Floridian. Why name calling? Think about this individuals family, you never know when it is your time!

[Steve]

The car was owned by an employee of the strip club lollipops, and there were 2 young ladies in the car. One died instantly and the other was bayflighted out. This article should not be a pissing contest between the north and the south. Remember Gomer, the war is over. Have some respect for the girls families.

[Josh]

Ummmmm this was a young man and a female passenger. The car belongs to him and he let her drive on the way back from thier lunch break. They live together and are a couple.

So I dont know where you got your information from.

[ray]

Have a little more respect for the dead.My cousin, in which i love and i miss dearly was in that accident, which could have happened to anyone anywhere, so be a little more sympathetic to other's misfortunes.R.I.P brother....i will always have you in my heart

[Di]

My question is why was she driving backward on 19? My heart goes out to all involved but Why would anyone drive backward on any road?

[C]

Why on earth would anyone drive in reverse on 19? It doesn't matter where the person originates from. Where is common sense?
I sympathize with the deceased girl's family.

[Jenny]

What do yankees and rednecks have to do with this accident? It's just called common sense not to drive in reverse on US 19, give me a break.

[Ray]

It was a deceased guy his name was elias diaz, a real good guy, but he wasn't driving.It dosn't make sense why the female would put the car in reverse but it won't change a thing now.RIP i miss you brother

All of you are STUPID

If you dont like Florida, LEAVE. If you dont like New York, LEAVE. Or better yet KILL YOURSELVES.

[Irene]

my heart go's out to the family that lost a loved one.
to the name callers on here: Give me a break what do you think this is Jerry Springer or something. get a real!! damn butts.

[caroline]

OK Kids...everyone's being a little cranky and I think it's naptime. Settle down and you can watch cartoons when you get up.

My prayers and condolences to the family of the deceased and to the woman who was also injured.

[Dorothy]

My heart goes out Elias's family. Elias was one of the nicest , kindest and most genorous guys I know. To set the story straight. No one knows exactly why it happened but it does'nt matter now, 2 lives have been destroyed and 2 families devasted. Elias will be missed very much by all of his co-workers and friends. This is a tragedy. Pleases pray their families.

[Natalia]

My cousin Elias will be missed terribly, nobody knows yet why that chick was driving in reverse and we will find out. As for Elias I love you, and will miss you sooooo much. He was the coolest most sweetest guy you could ever have met.
RIP Love Always,
your cousin Natalia!

[Margie]

To all you name callers, Please have respect for our family. We are dealing with a great deal of pain, We just lost a great family member whom we love tremendously. Elias I love you cous and will miss you always. RIP

[JDog]

Just wanted to say that I am a Yankee. I live in Northern Michigan. I'm down here taking part in some construction going on. It is true that us Yankees are impatient and sometimes rude and always in a hurry. Of course not all Yankees are that way but I know I can be at times. I'm so sorry that someone lost their lives though. I feel for the family and friends of those who lost their lives and those who were hurt in this accident. Curiously enough I drive a cement truck as well. Those cement trucks don't give much in an accident. They do some serious damage. Keep in mind also that cement trucks can't stop as quick as a sport car. I'm sure it really was an accident and obviously wasn't as dumb as I'm sure it may have sounded. Some people just don't always realize that big trucks can't stop as fast as their car can. Either way my condolences go out to all of you who are effected by this.

[JDog]

Just wanted to make it clear that I am NOT the cement truck driver that was in the accident. I just happen to be a cement truck driver. Ok...that's all I wanted to say

PEOPLE ENOUGH WITH THE YANKEE AND REDNECK CRAP. THEY WERE NOT YANKEES, ELIAS WAS A FLORIDIAN ALWAYS WAS.
RESPECT ARE PAIN.

[Isaac]

Elias was an awsome guy, we will miss you greatly. you will always be in our hearts. love you cous RIP

[Tynaisha]

I'm really distraught that so many people would find a morbid pleasure in someone's death. Elias was a son, grandson, brother, and cousin and was extremely loved by all of us. I'm completely ashamed of what we've become as human beings. Instead of sending condolences to their families, you've resorted to petty nonsense. What has become of us? And what of our future as a human race? I thank those of you who sympathize with our loss, and I pity those who don't know enough to do so. I love you Eliita!!!

[Raul]

We love you Eliita, I dont know why this happened to you. I dont understand what happend. You will forever be in my heart. love you man
We will miiiissss youuuuuuuuu!!!!!
RIP

[JACKIE]

Elias was one of the sweetest guy you could ever meet. Eliita It was an honor being your cousin. Thank you for being a part of my life. I will miss you and love you forever. Issy and Bonnie we are with you.

[Avoid'n19]

Can't these builder with their ill planned rush to build (never taking into consideration the need for more/wider roads with the proper traffic signs/signals build their own access roads to their creations? All their building debris could then fall into their own path.

[bobcatwelder]

Hell its hard enough to drive forward on US 19 let alone try an idiot stunt of driving backward ,Ticket her for being stupid ,failure to use due care , unsafe lane change , not using you turn signal , not being in your right mind was she a blonde

Bobcatwelder your an idiot keep your stupid comments to yourself. you are an idiot and by the Miranda is brunette. you uneducated moron.

Bobcatwelder..let me guess...you drink beer.

[David]

With the exception of the blonde comment, Bobcatwelder is on the right track. Remember that a person is now dead because of her actions. It may not have been her intent, but she committed several infractions of the law that resulted in a negligent death. Sorry about her luck, but she should be forced to pay the consequences of her actions. Too few get off with a slap on the wrist.

[Ruby Coleman]

the internet has become one more way for people to show their ignorence and to spew hatred. GROW UP! stop with all of this preoccupation with insulting someone. It is so easy to point a finger at everyone else. a lot of you have missed your turn off and tried to get back to it before. I don't know what happened but that is the only explanation that I can think of. Mandy fender is a 21 year old woman, lying in intensive care with a broken back and a collpsed lung and all of her ribs broken, amongst numerous other injurys, and the knowledge that will be with her for the rest of her life if she lives, that she was responsible for the horrifying death of her boyfriend and the pain that is being experienced by all who loved him and are devastated by his loss of life. I happen to know her since she was a baby and Mandy has experienced a very sad and VERY tragic life, that she wasn't responsible for, and now this. All of us who have ever made a split second bad drivin decision could be in her shoes. Whether we will admit it or not!!!!I doubt that she did it deliberately

[Ruby Coleman]

the internet has become one more way for people to show their ignorence and to spew hatred. GROW UP! stop with all of this preoccupation with insulting someone. It is so easy to point a finger at everyone else. a lot of you have missed your turn off and tried to get back to it before. I don't know what happened but that is the only explanation that I can think of. Mandy fender is a 21 year old woman, lying in intensive care with a broken back and a collpsed lung and all of her ribs broken, amongst numerous other injurys, and the knowledge that will be with her for the rest of her life if she lives, that she was responsible for the horrifying death of her boyfriend and the pain that is being experienced by all who loved him and are devastated by his loss of life. I happen to know her since she was a baby and Mandy has experienced a very sad and VERY tragic life, that she wasn't responsible for, and now this. All of us who have ever made a split second bad drivin decision could be in her shoes. Whether we will admit it or not!!!!I doubt that she did it deliberately

[bz]

STAY STRONG MANDY WE ALL PRAYEN 4 YA!!

[Angie]

Ok I just wanna say I dont know the whole story but Mandi is my neice and she has a lil girl that just turned one so my thoughts and prayers are with her.I'm sorry for the young man lifes lose.

[Jessica]

Everyone makes mistakes. But fight til the end Mandi. I love you. We're sisters forever.

[sorrowful]

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[???]

to all those who know her personally .....can someone pls let me know how she is ......

[Lois]

I love you honey. Be strong. I'm your mother, don't forget that.

[Jessica]

What do you want to know about her? Who is this?

[Amy & Brittney Lynn]

Mandi keep it together and stay strong.We your family and friends are praying for you.We love you so much.

[steven bybie]

we do not know why she was driving our driving in reverse but my cuzin elias will be missed so much i cant get over that this happend to a man like my cuzin i love you cuz R.I.P

[steven bybie]

we do not know why she was driving our driving in reverse but my cuzin elias will be missed so much i cant get over that this happend to a man like my cuzin i love you cuz R.I.P

[bybie]

we do not know why she was driving our driving in reverse but my cuzin elias will be missed so much i cant get over that this happend to a man like my cuzin i love you cuz R.I.P

[Izzie(the sister)]

I just wanted to thank all the people who are keeping our family in their prayers. And thanks to all of our cousins and his friends for saying all those nice things about him. Yes he will be missed. We all loved him, but I think me and his mom will miss him the most. I still can't believe this has happened.We don't blame Miranda for this. It was a fluke accident. I hope everything is going to be ok with her. If anyone has been keeping in touch with her family please let them know we would like to know how she is doing. Thank you all for the nice comments about him. He seemed very loved by all. We will all miss him. We love you!!

[shocked]

A friend of mine sent me this link to see this story, for she saw this accident moments after it happened, and it haunted her the rest of the night. I read this story, and I was looking to see if there was a link to a follow-up when I noticed that people could leave comments. I was expecting to read condolences, prayers, and just some kind words to those who are greiving and trying to make sense of such a horrific event. Instead, I found beligerent remarks relating to demographics, gender, and hair color. I am appalled, and embarrassed for you. I am sorry that you were not brought up to show respect for people-regardless. (and given the comments that have gone back and forth, apparently it doesn't matter where you are from to have bad manners)I do not know these families, but I certainly can empathize and sympathize with them. I am so sorry for your loss, all of you.

[Heather]

I will miss you Elias and i hope Miranda makes it through.

[Jessica]

To all who keeps asking about my sister Mandi (Miranda)... She's not doing too well at the moment. She can't breathe on her own. She has a broken vertebrate disk in her back, broken hips, collapsed lungs and collapsed ribs. Doctors are still running tests. Thank you to all who have been asking about her. I'm very sorry about Elias. Mandi is a very bright woman with lots of goals and a baby daughter who's 1. This doesn't sound like something she would do on purpose. Trust me. She doesn't even know about Elias yet. She has to live with this the rest of her life (if all goes well with her.) I'm sorry again. I love my sister and I'll keep praying for everyone in both families.

[???]

TYVM 4 THE UPDATES

[Traci Bybie]

I kind of took the day off yesterday by not coming on this site to check comments and just try to take this all in. I had much hate for all the idiots who were name calling and leaving stupid comments, instead of leaving prayers and condolences. I was reading these comments with Elias' mother & sister & it made me sick to hear how people could be so thoughtless at a time like this. Everyone is intitled to voice their opinons, believe me I voice mine; however there is a time and place for it. So I would hope that from this point on there will be nothing but love & best wishes for both these families that are grieving at this time. I have known this family for 21 years, they are as much a part of my family as my biological family. Elias was a role model for my children. My 8 year daughter, Heather, sat and watched his favorite movies, sang and danced with him. He would pay her to wash his car, or get him a drink out of the frige for him. She loved it, she loved him. Thursday night( night before accident)they sat together at Elias computer and he made her a CD, some of her favorite songs and some of his. He told her it was getting late and to go to sleep he would have it all ready for her in the morning and he did. Saturday, despite this tragic loss my family went to the Tampa Storm Football game, before we left Heather was crying terriably I asked her what was wrong? She said I dont want to go, I asked why? She said because Elias loved football mommy. I hope this gives some of you who didnt know Elias a better understanding of what kind of person he was that he was able to make such a impact on a little 8 year girl's life. So from here on out I dont want nothing but positive comments left for Elias & his family and for Miranda &her little 1 year old girl that is so innocent and loving and who could loose her mommy as well. Elias thank you for the positive and loving impact you had in Heather's life you have know idea what that has ment to me. Bon Bon & Iz I love you both so much for all that you do for that little girl & I am here for you both, please lean on me at this time of pain & sorrow. Love you all

[Angie]

MY PRAYER AND THOUGHTS GO OUT TO ELISA'S FAMILY AND FRIENDS...MANDI WE ARE THINKING OF YOU BABY GIRL PLEASE STAY STRONG AND COME THOUGH THIS WE LOVE YOU AND NEED YOU...

[Deanna]

I love you mommy! I need you. Be strong.

[concerned]

I have been prying for all involved since friday both miranda and elias this is very awful thing that happened but also for the truck driver his mind must be crazy over this even though it was not his fault not that there should be a fault any way I hope for the best for every one involved

[caring]

I have been kind of checking in here and there wondering how miranda is doing I saw this and have been prying for her to pull though for her and her child so if any one may know thank you

[Angie]

YOU ARE IN ALL OF OUR PRAYERS MANDI PLEASE BABY GIRL STAY STRONG AND COME HOME TO US...I LOVE YOU BABY GIRL...LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER YOUR AUNT ANGIE AND GRANDPA

[Jenn]

Bonnie and Izzy my prayers are with you be strong and take comfort in the memories of the good times you shared together.

[DAWN ,JANET AND ROBERT]

Elias,
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.We love and miss you .

[everett]

Elias,
Elias i will miss you playing football and catch with you in the back yard
i love you and miss you (Go Bucs)!!
Everett

[just a reader]

If anyone knows how miranda is doing I would like to know I am prying for her and family and her lil girl

[Tracy Kolman]

At this time there is a memorial going on for Elias and Michael and I cannot be there. (We moved away 2 months ago.)To Elias's family,You know us by name, and we have never met. We learned from his mom that he talked about us as we talked about him, with sincerity and friendship, kindness to heart.
Today I ordered flowers today for my 33 year old friend,...there is something really wrong about that.
I don't wish it on anybody.
Bonnie and family, our deepest sympathy goes out to you. We are there in our hearts grieving with you.
So, I was going to tell a funny story about Elias, but I don't want to conjure up anymore yankee vs redneck garb. I will restate what his cuz already said though: Elias was a Floridian,,,and I do want to emphasize the word FLORIDIAN>>>>it's a melting pot...like it or not,,,so is the entire United States. We are all welcome here.
To Miranda's family: please keep posting her progress. We do not know her, but know if she was special to Elias then she is good with us.The concrete driver too. You are all in our prayers.
Elias, if I could ask you one thing, I would step aside and have Michael do the honors: "What's for lunch" brother it's already 9am and we have a half days work done???...I guess you're going to Publix,,,nothing else is open until 11.
RIP brother!
Michael & Tracy K

[Angie]

There is not change in Mandi's (Miranda) condation she is still the same no better no worst..We are praying for her..

[reader]

my pryers go out to everyone concerned or changed by this I can't even grip it my self

[Jessica]

I finally got to see my sister (Mandi) today! She's still not doing to well. She just squeezed my fingers and started crying. And there wasn't anything I could about it except love her even more. I just want to thank everyone who has been praying for her. I also would like for everyone to know that deep down inside her she really didn't mean for any of this to happen. She's really hurting over allof this.

[cheryl]

My heart is just broken for EVERYONE involved with this tragedy. Every memory of Elias puts a smile on my face,as I am sure it does for everyone who knew him, but inside each of us there is a shattered heart. My heart is not only irretrievably broken by the loss of my cousin, but also by the pain and sorrow that my aunt and my cousin Isabel are living with. I love you both.

[cheryl]

Oh, one more thing,I didn't know Miranda, but her and her family are in my prayers.

[Tracy K]

Jessica, Thanks for continuing to post. Your sister and your family are in our prayers.

[Aunt Karen and Uncle Rob]

It's often said that life is too short. Elias was the most happiest guy anyone could meet. He was funny and from the day he was born, we never saw him angry and he never was disrespectful. Our hearts and prayers are with Bonnie and Isabel and all the people whose lives Elias touched. Our prayers are with Miranda and her family. We'll miss you, Elias.

[love]

this accident reuned three lives I feel for every body all three family's must be in shock over this I have been checking in here and there praying for all and hoping miranda will pull through for her child and family I would really like to know how she is doing

[Angie]

I got to talk to my neice ( Miranda )yesterday for the first time...It was so good to hear her voice..She is doing good they want to fit her with a back brace but befor they can do that her chest tubes have to come out..Her spirts are good she told me that she hopes to be going home in two weeks but I dont think so.

[concerned]

I am very glad to here she is doing better she is still in my pryers

[a family member]

It's good to know that Miranda is recovering, I am sure she has a very long road ahead of her. Her family is very lucky to still have her. She is still in our prayers. Elias' family is doing very well, considering. His mother and sister have been very strong through this whole tragedy. Elias played a very important role in everyone's life and he is so very missed every single minute of every single day by everyone who knew him. Bonnie and Izzie are always in our prayers as well.

[Jessica]

I just want to thank everyone again for being there for Mandi. She's doing very well. She might be able to get out of the hospital tonight. We're keeping our fingers crossed. She doesn't remember anything from that day but she does know about Elias. She's very sorry about everything and she talks to Elias everynight. If Ruby is still checking in and reading Mandi said please get ahold of someone. She really wants to talk to you. God bless all.

[reader]

I am very glad to here miranda is doing well, it's amazing she maid out of the car god must be on her side or seding angles to look after her. She can't remeber any thing so she doesn't know why she was backing up on 19 or what she was doing. If she could figure it out I am sure the other families would want to know. I know I would even if it was just an accident just to put every thing together. God bless everyone involved!

[jessica]

No she doesn't remember anything. But the police report says the car was in park. Who knows....

[Media]

Officer Bromley said "the car was in drive not park" and the police report has not been released as of yet !! And even if it was in park why would you put your car in park on u.s hwy 19.maybe suicied!! but we will never know because she can't remeber anything!

[everyone involved]

to media: ever stop to think that just maybe the car broke down and she was trying to get it to go again? maybe the car was in park because a friggin 20,000 lb truck ran it over and knocked the gear shift up?? suicide??? give me a break! it doesnt matter if she remembers or not...the truth will eventually come out...bottom line is, SHE was driving that car,SHE lived, HE died,and SHE will forever live with that. how about we all just stop speculating and wait for the police report to be released.

[jessica]

media, what the hell is your problem? yours is probably the most retarded message that was posted on here. lol. you mustnot know mandi. so just shut the hell up. thank you.

[everyone involved]

to jessica:elias is my cousin and i know how angry you are at the comment from media. i never met maranda but i do hope she is going to be ok through and after all of this...we have to remember that these low lives dont deserve a respond to their ignorant comments...i understand how mad you are but you got your point across and thats that....keep the updates comming and piss on the people who have nothing better to do than to come up with stupid assumptions (i agree with you..his or hers was the most "retarded") you guys are very blessed to still have her with you.....

[Traci]

I can not believe all these comments. It doesnt stop, I think you all need to find something else to do with your time. Today is the first day I have been back to this site to view the comments in awhile & the only reason why I logged on today is because a co-worker of mine asked how my friends were doing at this sad time in their lives, and how Miranda was doing. So I thought I would see if there was a update on Miranda. Then to read these comments being posted. Why are we stooping down to a elementry grade child. Has anyone stopped to think about Elias' family that might be reading these comments thinking they might still find some comfort in prayers and thoughts that are being left for them & their son/brother. do you really think this is what they want to read?? Miranda lived... great, her family has a second chance with her & ys she is going to live with this for the rest of her life; however Elias has passed...his family will never get a second chance with him, they live in the same house, watch the same t.v. sit on the couch he sat on, walk pass his bedroom everyday & know he is never going to sleep in that room again. Lets grow up and show some compassion for his family the ones that are the real victims here. I am trying so hard to understand peoples thoughts but I cant, I cant understand ignorence. Put your self in Bonnie & Izzie's shoes & all of Elias' friends and extended family. If you had the guts to show up to his memorial you would have seen a room and a half filled with people who loved & admired him and if you truely knew him & his family I dont think you all would be acting as imature as you are. So grow up and remember what your mom taught you (if you had one) if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. Karma is a bit** people, what goes around comes around. thats all I have to say.

I just happen to come across this and last comment wasn't much better in my mind all three families are paing in much different ways my pryers go out to everyone

[Jessica]

I'm not bad mouthing anyone. I'm just standing up for my sister. She's not dead thank god, and I'm truely sorry for Elias friends and family. Mandi loves Elias very much.

jessica please let us know how miranda is doing. I don't know her but my pryers goes out to everyone and I want her to recover. God bless all involved by this!!

[Traci]

you know what gets me is how people dont have the courage to leave their name or real name when leaving these comments. What are you afraid of??? And no name their was nothing wrong with my comment I left except stop acting like two year olds and remember the real reason why we are even leaving comments in the first place.

[Jennifer Leigh Anderson Brady]

Traci, you're making an a** out of yourself. Stop posting.

[Lisa Renye]

My name is Lisa Renye. First of all, I'd like to say my heart goes out to each and every person who loved these two people.

I worked with Miranda, and Eli., when I worked for V&C Techology. I stayed in touch with them when I left my postion at V&C.

On July 20th, I ran into a former co-worker, and he informed me about the accident. I was on vacation, and had no idea this happened. I honestly did not believe him, and I went on-line to conduct a search myself. I am in total disbelief. I have tried to contact Miranda, but I no longer have her contact infomation. Please, someone have her call me.

I will miss Eli; he was always so polite, and well mannered. He was nice to everyone, and loved sports. I can not believe that this happened, and I will pray for all of you.

[jessica]

Lisa: I will tell Mandi to call you the next time she calls me. She doesn't have her cell phone anymore. She's doing well though.

[Jessica]

Jessica,

Thank you!

[caring]

I am so glad to hear she is doing well. This I am sure has been life changing weeks in all the families lifes. No one ment for this to happen not miranda or Elias nor the man driving the truck. Some people have no class to leave such stupid remarks. These three people are the ones my pryers go out to and there family this was just an awful accident out of any ones control. God bless!!!!!!!

[caring]

I guess everyone has stoped posting but if there are someone who is still checking in let us know how maranda is doing I have been so botherd by this I just can't belive how fast things can changh

[jessica]

Mandi is doing very good. Everyone is really impressed on how well she's pulling through. She's home with her daughter (who's a huge inspiration on her) and she's walking more and more each day. Thank you for asking.

[Miranda (Mandi)]

This is Miranda and I can't believe this negativity at a time like this. Eli was a very positive person. He was always smiling and laughing and joking. If i was having a bad day he made it a great one with only a few simple words and that beauitful smile of his. I don't remember the accident and this horrible experience will stay with me always, but what will also stay with me in my heart is eli. I HONESTLY don't see me driving in reverse anywhere let alone on US 19. Those of you who make rash comments about something you have no clue about because you were not there need to find something more positive to do with your time. Eli was blessed with a loving nurturing mother and a wonderful loving funny sister that he cared deeply about. He was blessed with many friends, which friends wern't hard for him to make he was easy to talk to, he was open about most things and had a heart of gold. He cared so much and never wanted to see anyone upset or hurt or angry. I originally did not want to see the car because i was so afraid. I came accrossed the artical that was saved for me in case i did one day want to look at and read it. At first it made me ill and later i felt so blessed and lucky. I will never understand why i made it out of the accident alive and why his sweet soul was taken from us. I may be here for my daughter or to make a difference in someone's life I don't really know. The media makes me ill writing things that they do not know are true, its slander and uncalled for. I feel so saddened and angry and hurt everyday i wake up and cannot call Eli, everytime i remember one of our jokes. Eli and i worked together at a computer component ware house we started work on the same day and stayed close ever since. Life without him will never be the same. I have spoken with elis' mom recently and wow is she a very strong woman she enlightened me with her caring words and strength. As i push to get better and to heal I will carry her words and her thoughts with me.
To the people who have posted comments about beind concerned about my well being I am doing ok every day is a struggle, but I have to get better and back to being a mommy asap. I am walking now and doing alot better than most expected, better than i expected.
Its so hard to even watch tv anymore because it seems elis' name is all over it. certain songs i hear on the radio, things i hear people say its just very very hard. When i woke up in the hospital i did not know why I was there.My aunt told me I was in an accident. When i found out I was in st. pete I could not understand why Eli was not there. If I was hurt he would be there but no one could answer my questions. I even called my poor boss and asked her if eli was at work, and she said he was not there. I did not understand Eli never missed a day.When I finally found out that I was in accident with Eli and that he had passed I was so confused. I could not remember anything and it hurt me. Was it my fault how could this happen, why him and not me? My nurse called in a pastor to speak with me, we prayed for eli and after he left I spoke to eli and told him my deepest thoughts, I still pray and talk to him all the time. I know he is with god now in heaven with my uncle i bet they are sitting on a cloud some where watching over all their loved ones. Those of us who are close to Eli try to focus your positive energy towards him and remember the great times we shared with him. I believe thats what he would want. Eli i love you and will always remember the times we shared because they were all good times never a dull moment. I will think of him every mothers day we made breakfast together at my bosses house for everyone and we had made omlets together. When I am able to work again its going to be very hard knowing he isn't in the ware house, I can't go talk to him I can't walk out there and listen to something funny or silly he has to say. He is definately going to be missed and he will always be loved.

[Jessica]

I love you Mandi! Always! I'm here for you!

This is unbelievable that people are so ignorant. One person lost their life and the other person is learning to live a new life. A life of different meaning now. Mandi is such a special person and she has a purpose that will make a difference in someone's life. She is a survivor!Don't judge those that you don't know and the circumstances surrounding this tragic event. Mandi has such a big heart and is always caring about others never herself. She would never intentionally hurt anyone!! Accidents happen. I can speak for her when I say that she will never forget Eli and will have him in her prayers forever. My prayers go out to Eli's family. Take one day at at time. Mandi, we love you and will always be here for you. "W"

[JDog]

To Miranda,
I want to personally send you my condolences and I am so sorry for your loss. I posted earlier concerning this and I wanted to say that I am truly sorry if my comment hurt or troubled you or anyone in any way. I only hope for the best for you and your family and your friends. I'm glad that you have made it through and that your daughter has her mom back. Sometimes I forget that the media doesn't always get the facts straight. I am a cement truck driver myself, however, I'm not the cement truck driver involved in the accident, nor do I know anyone involved. I just know what they are capable of. Best wishes to you and all of yours Miranda and Elias and his family and friends.
From: Jeremy (cement truck driver from Michigan)

[Angie]

Mandi,

We love you baby and anyone who knows you knows you didn't do this on purpose baby..You are such a sweet woman (damn thats kinda funny to be saying I'm so use to saying girl.) I have enjoyed everyday since the day you came into my life you are part of my family and always will be no matter what..We all make mistakes and I'll be the first to say that I have made some hell I've made a bunch but I can also say I'm VERY PROUD TO CALL YOU MY NIECE.. I Love you.
Love Aunt Angie

[Michael and Tracy Kolman]

Mandi, Hi.
I just want to personally post to you that we are glad you are on the road to recovery.
We are glad to see a post with YOUR name at the end of it! To God be the Glory!
How cool. Glad you are well.

To everyone involved, you are still in our prayers. Like Miranda said little things trigger funny memories. We talk about Elias often.
Did y'all know he was a Met fan? Go Mets!

Michael and Tracy K

[Miranda (Mandi)]

I was talking to eli's mom not to long ago she seems to make me feel better, she is the only person I can talk to about Eli that makes me smile. We share stories and memories. You know that saying you don't know what you've got till its gone? Well its ture, I always thought Eli was going to be there and I was always going to make sure I was apart of his life.We shared something so special, so unique. After i spoke to his mom I went in the room and listened to one of the cd's he made me, the last song was shameless by Garth Brooks he said it fit. i just cried. I still can't fight the tears,
Eli I love you and I miss you. I know you don't want me to cry or hurt you never did. I talked to my aunt not to long ago too and she said My whole life I have been strong and that she knows this is a hard time but I will find the strength to get though it. But what we had was so one of a kind a friendship that was so new but so comfortable. I only had almost six months with you that seems not long enough. If i had a choice eli to change anything I would only change one thing our last day together, I would have driven to your house with the baby and we would have called in sick to work and spent the day laughing and joking and enjoying eachother and the kids with izzie. maybe you would still be here then. I don't know if I have the strength or the courage to stop hurting crying missing you or to get through this. I know I have to for my baby girl's sake. She makes me smile every day with some thing cute she does. But what really gets my heart is how she points her finger and moves it left to right(in a no no way). It reminds me of the amy song and dancing around in the warehouse at work together. You will always be apart of my life and in my heart.
When my aunt and I drove by the accident site this weekend I made her turn around his friends put a cross there for him, I got out and cried. I think I miss him more everyday. Everyday seems harder to bare. every time I'm hurting or in pain I remember I'm so lucky and blessed I try to think positive I try to think of my babygirl and get through it. I'm here I have a second chance and I have a reason. Maybe the reason I was hired at V&C tech was to meet and become close with Eli?I don't know I do believe everything happens for a reason and though we may not know or understand the reasons they later become clear. At least hats how it has worked out in my life.
To heathers family i know Eli loved her we spoke about her often. He told me about how they danced around together and always had fun. She is a strong little girl and just remind her that he loved her and will always be in her heart. I don't know if your religious but she can pray and talk to him and it might help her heal. it seems to help me alittle. I met her at eli's and she is a beautiful smart girl. I'm sorry she is hurting right now hug her for me...
Please keep all of us in your thoughts and prayers believe it or not it does make a difference!

[Cheryl May]

Hi Miranda. I am one of Elias' many cousins. I am glad to hear that you are recovering and that you and the baby are together again. I hope to, one day, be able to meet you and your little girl. From what I've heard, Elias was pretty crazy about you both. Good luck with the road ahead. Stay strong and don't forget to thank God everyday for the gift He has given you.
Cheryl

[a grandmother]

Does anyone know if any tickets were given or charges were ever filed in regards to this accident?

[???]

A grabdmother...what does it matter the truck driver obviously was not paying attention he did not even break until he was on top of the car. the car wasn't in reverse but broken down in the far right lane...

yes there was a ticket issued to the driver of the car(miranda fender )for driving in reverse on a public road(at 45 mph this is public record anyone can get a copy of police report)

[concerned]

Where would one look for this particular public record? Thanks.
and..to " ??? "... "what does it matter"??? A human being was killed in this accident, it matters. SO, are you involved, just a witness to the event, or perhaps the driver?

whoever heard of a car driving 45 mph in reverse?? Does that sound true or made up ??

To concerned:You can go to the public records dept. at the court house to get them it is 2$for the entire report. As to the question true or made up.... very true.Six people gave recorded staments under oath to the highway potrol : )

[concerned]

Thank you, does it matter which court house, or in what county?
Thanks for your help.

pasco county

[thinking]

FYI Miranda went to court yesterday
and her ticket was reversed and she is clear of all charges. Amazing the "so-called 6 witnesses didn't want to swear she was driving in reverse before a judge....where are the cement truck drivers tickets for not being in control of his vehicle at all times????

[knowing]

Unfathomable she could be cleared of charges. Miranda has not been held accountable for her actions for many years. Her "dramas" could win Oscars. This is truly a shame for all of her victims & their families.

[ALSO KNOWING]

NO MATTER WHAT THE OUT COME IS WITH THIS MESS SHE STILL HAS TO LIVE WITH THE FACT SHE KILLED ELIAS.IM SURE SHE WILL RECIVE MONEY OF SOME KIND AND THATS OK BECAUSE NO AMOUNT OF MONEY WILL GIVE HER PEACE OF MIND.THE ONLY PERSON I FEEL SORROW FOR IN THIS CASE IS THE PARENTS OF ELIAS.....AND TO ANSWER (THINKIN ) U DONT THINK MR MAGAZINE IS GOING TO BRING IN WITNESS TO TESTIFY AGINST HER DO U ..GROW UP ....AND ONCE AGAIN THE REDI MIX DRIVER RECEIVED NO CITATIONNS BECAUSE HE WAS FOUND TO BE IN FULL CONTROL BY THE STATE ENGINER WHO RECREATED THE SCENE AND THEY HAVE SECURED STATMENTS FROM FOUR OF THE SIX WITNESS...SO KEEP TALIKN......BLA BLA BLA BLA

[a fact]

Just read the blog top to bottom.
FYI: Not one blood relative of Miranda Fender has written here. They are "so called" aunt, sister, & mother. She is an only child. She is enough to handle.

My husband has been a truckdriver for many years and that truckdriver is responsible for Elias' death. He is supposed to be in complete control of his vehicle. Had he been far enough back, he would have seen Elias, car. So, BLA BLA BLA

[Angie]

Omg you all need to grown the hell up...As far as not being "BLOOD" yeah your right but if you knew the story then you would know why none of her "BLOOD" have posted anything. And as far as Mandi not being held resonble stop to think she has to live with knowing that she was driving the car that her friend was killed in everyday for the rest of her life.

[MIRANDA AKA MANDI]

FYI THIS IS MIRANDA AND EVERYONE WHO KNOWS ME KNOWS THAT I WOULD NEVER INTENTIONALLY HURT ANY ONE. ESPECIALLY ELI I LOVED HIM WE WERE ALWAYS THERE FOR EACH OTHER HE KNEW MY UPS AND DOWNS GOOD AND BAD AND I KNEW HIS AND GUESS WHAT WE STILL LOVED EACH OTHER UNCONDITIONALLY. THE MONEY HAS NO MEANS TO THIS IT WILL NOT BRING HIM BACK. I DO NOT HAVE BLOOD FAMILY MEMBERS I HAVE 5 BLOOD FAMILY MEMBERS IF U MUST KNOW. I HAVE FAMILY OF CHOICE AND ELI WAS ONE OF THEM. I BELIEVE YOU ARE NOT ALWAYS PLACED WITH THE RIGHT FAMILIES AND PARENTS OBVIOUSLY BECAUSE MY MOTHER AND I JUST DON'T FIT. MY MOTHERS ARE CHRIS LOIS AND RUTH THEY HAVE TAKEN CARE OF ME SINCE I WAS 15 AND ON MY OWN.
IDON'T WANT OR EXPECT SYMPATHY OR SORROW FROM ANY ONE... WHAT I WOULD APPRECIATE IS FOR PEOPLE WHOM DON'T KNOW OR THINK THEY DO KNOW WHO I AM TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND OPEN YOUR EYES AND YOUR HEART. UNLESS YOU KNOW ME AS I AM A 22 YEAR OLD GRIEVING FRIEND AND MOTHER OVER THE BEST FRIEND SHE WILL EVER HAVE. HE WAS STRONG SENSITIVE LOVING CARING KIND XTRODINARY AND FORGIVING.HE MADE THE BEST OUT EVERY SITUATION NO MATTER WHAT IT WAS HE ALWAYS HAD A JOKE OR A STORY.
U WHO I'M ASSUMING THAT MOST OF U COMMENTING DIDN'T KNOW HIM WOULD UNDERSTAND WHAT A FAB. PERSON HE WAS. YOU ALL MEN OR WOMEN WILL NEVER AMOUNT TO THE KIND OF PERSON HE WAS.
FACT I DON'T REMEMBER WHAT HAPPENED BUT WHAT I DO KNOW AND BELIEVE IS THAT ELI WAS A 33 YEAR OLD MAN WHO WOULD NOT ALLOW ME OR ANYONE ELSE DRIVE IN REVERSE IN THE NEW CAR HE JUST BOUGHT AND WAS SO PROUD OF... HE WOULD OF THROWN THE CAR IN PARK AND MADE ME GET OUT FIRST.
I HAVE NOT BEEN ON THIS SIGHT IN A WHILE DUE TO ALL THE NEGATIVITY. I FEEL LIKE THIS IS HIGH SCHOOL AND THIS IS THE GOSSIP PAGE. EVERYONE HAS AN IMPUT AND KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON UNLESS THEYY ARE ELI'S MOM SISTER OR HIS COUSINS OR ME.

AND EVERYDAY I THINK ABOUT ELI I LOOK AT HIS PICS I CRY I PRAY AND TALK TO HIM. AND EVERYDAY I HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT HE IS NOT HERE. I TRY TO DREAM OF HIM TO SEE HIS SMILE AND REMEMBER THE LIFE AND LAUGHTER HE BROUGHT TO MY LIFE AND MY DAUGHTERS. I SAW HIM ALMOST EVERYDAY FOR SIX STRAIGHT MONTHS TALKED TO HIM FIRST THING IN THE MORNING AND BEFORE BED EVERY NITE AND HE IS NOT HERE ANY MORE TO TELL ME A CRAZY STORY ( IF U KNOW HIM U KNOW THE STORIES I MEAN)OR ABOUT A MOVIE OR WHY HE WAS MAD OR WHY HE WAS REALLY SMILEY OR WHATEVER.

ANOTHER FACT THERE IS NO WAY 2 DRIVE A CAR 55MPH 45 MPH OR EVEN 25 MPH IN REVERSE WITHOUT LOOSING CONTROL OF THE CAR ITS IMPOSSIBLE. THAT DRIVER SAW THE CAR BEHIND US TURN OFF BUT DID NOT GO AROUND HIMSELF HUH??? WHY??? ANOTHER FACT TO THOSE WHO THINK THEY KNOW ME I AM NOT AN ONLY CHILD I HAVE 2 BEAUTIFUL LITTLE BLONDE HAIRED BROTHERS.
LETS REMEMBER THAT EVERY FRIDAY ELIAS' FAMILY AND MYSELF GRIEVE AND REMEMBER WHAT WE HAVE LOST ONE OF THE GREAT ONES ONE OF THE ONE WHO WE WILL NEVER COME ACROSS AGAIN NOT IN A MILLION YEARS. FRIDAYS WILL NEVER BE A DAY ABOUT EXCITEMENT FOR THE WEEKEND OR PAYDAY AGAIN. ITS A DAY 2 REMEMBER AND MISS AND GRIEVE.
AND I HOPE THAT WE ALL CAN SIT BACK AND THINK ABOUT ELI AND HIS LOVED ONES NOT JUST ON FRI BUT EVERYDAY BECAUSE. THEY NEED POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.
AND FYI SUEING COURT LAWYERS JUDGES JURY NOTHING IS GOING TO BRING MY BEST FRIEND BACK NO ONE IS GOING TO BRING BONNIES SON BACK. NO ONE WILL EVER LIVE UP TO WHAT ELI WAS IN MY HEART IN MY LIFE IN MY SOUL. I LOVE HIM AND THAT LOVE FOR HIM WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART NO ONE AND NO COMMENT CAN TAKE THAT LOVE OR WHAT HIM AND I SHARED FROM ME EVER.

[gia]

well i heard it was beter mix truck and those trucks have high bumpers thats why the truck ran over them instead of pushing them acrossed the road side. he still should have had tome to pull off the side of the road instead of plowing into them.

[Elias cousin]

This is one of Elias cousin's... I haven't seen this page in awhile I just looked at it tonight and finally had all my questions answered.. Miranda, I dont know you and at first I was upset I did blame you. ONLY because the paper said you were driving in reverse... It makes no sense that you would be driving in reverse. I'm so sorry for being ignorant but I truly am happy to know that your doing well. I'm sorry this was very tragic for you I bet. You were in a terrible accident and we lost a great man. What makes me a little upset that the people claiming to be your family talking saying that your young with dreams and you have a child. Ummm so by saying that I took it the wrong way its ok for my cousin to pass because he didn't. Please take care of yourself ... I LOVE YOU ELIAS...

[MIranda]

Reply eli's cuz:I understand becasue you had no knowledge of me or my child or the relationship eli and i shared. But he was one in a million and i loved more than you will ever know. i wish we would have been more than friends. but he was the best friend i could of ever had. I would like to thank you but there is no need for an appology. when we are hurt and angry we say things and loosing some one like eli makes us very hurt and angry. Good luck getting through the tough times i'm trying and every friday is still hard to crawl out of bed but i do it for my daughter and eli. He will always be in my heart and will always be missed. I hope we can meet some day to talk about eli and his stories... take care

[Fact]

Miranda you do not have 2 brothers, you have HALF brothers, and as for the # of family members you actually have?
You threw away most all of your own blood relatives yrs ago with your own actions & constant lying. The others just haven't gotten to really know you yet or are partners in your coverups.
You never mentioned your father? Humm.

MY FATHER IS IN PRISON FOR HIS ACTIONS. MY BLOOD DISOWNED ME PUT ME IN FOSTER CARE. I DIDN'T OPT FOR THAT THANK U. THAT IS NOT WHERE AN CHILD BELONGS U CAN CHOOSE TO BELIEVE WHAT EVER YOU WANT AND HELPS U SLEEP @ NIGHT. THE FAMILY THAT I DO STILL HAVE MY GREAT GRANDFATHER MY AUNT K.W CUZ J.W AND J.D AUNT DEBI UNCLE BRUCE MAY HE RIP. MY AUNT MARCELLE MY UNCLE MIKE AND THEIR WHOLE FAMILY LOVE ME AND KNOW ME AND WHAT I HAVE BECOME AND THEY ARE PROUD OF ME AND MY AUNT P AND MANY MANY MORE. HOW MANY TIMES DID I TRY TO REKINDLE WHAT I MIGHT HAVE HAD WITH MY MOTHER. YET SHE MADE REALLY NO EFFORT BACK OTHERWISE SHE WOULD BE IN MY DAUGHTERS LIFE AND MINE. U DON'T KNOW ME T.H. "GRANDMOTHER" FACT" WHATEVER NAME U CHOOSE TO HIDE BEHIND AND U NEVER WILL. WHY NOT JUST SIGN YOUR NAME WHAT R U HIDING? THIS SIGHT IS SUPPOSE TO FOR THE ACCIDENT NOT FOR YOUR PERSONAL WAY TO BE EVIL AND HATEUL YOU NEED SOME GOD AND LOVE IN YOUR HEART WHAT IS LEFT OF IT ANYWAY. BUT ITS U THAT HAS TO ANSWER TO GOD AT THE END OF YOUR ROAD FOR ALL YOUR SKELETONS GOOD LUCK WITH ALL THAT.

[MIRANDA]

TO ALL OF ELIAS FAMILY AND FRIENDS I AM SO VERY SORRY THAT THIS SIGHT BEING USED BY MY SOMETIME HATEFUL FAMILY. I DO NOT UNDERSTAND THEM AND MOST PEOPLE DON'T EITHER EVEN THEIR OWN FRIENDS AND FAMILY. HOPEFULLY THEY WILL UNDERSTAND HOW DISRESPECTFUL THEY R BEING. I'M SOOO SORRY.